What Got You Here Won’t Get You There book summary

What Got You Here Won’t Get You There by Marshall Goldsmith

The more organizations you visit, the more space your suggestions are given.

 Getting praise can be dangerous because it can be easy to distract yourself when you hear all the positive things.

 Confusion filled with confusion causes you to resist change.

 You can't control the outcome, but why not try to control what you want to do?  Even if the cards in life are stacked against you, your best bet is your hard work.

 Successful people are in control of almost every single situation.  They do not see themselves as victims of the world.

 Lottery Ticket Players: Serious lottery players think success is random.  Successful people think that success is in their control and thus do not play the lottery.  Both mindsets are enchanting in their own way, but the successful approach works better overall.

 People can only do and change when it is in their own interest and aligned with our values.

 The four drivers of self: money, power, status, popularity.

 Smart people know what to do.  They need to know what to stop.

 Create a two-stop list instead of a to-do list.

 Not all behavior is good or bad.  Some behaviors are simply neutral.

 The downside of adding too much value is that adding value kills your ownership of other people's ideas.  These don't seem to be their idea when you add this idea.

 When receiving any kind of positive or negative feedback, take it from a neutral place and say, "Thank you."  If you do not respond with responsive comments, you will not be able to get into an argument.

 The question to ask yourself when making a catastrophic or critical comment about someone is not "Is this true?"  Is it so valuable?  "

 Don't tell how smart you are.  No one picks up

 It is a problem for me to withhold information when I do not communicate well.  If you do not communicate, you think you are keeping people in the dark.  Which makes people angry.

 Make a list of people you know and then review that list every week so you can send compliments to someone see

 Give up all the credit.

 Hold on to the past: “Many people enjoy living in the past, especially if they go back and blame someone else for what went wrong in their life.  When stuck in the past becomes a mutual problem ... when we see an excuse we blame someone or someone else out of our control as the cause of our failure.  But when we talk about the past, no one is talking about change.  It's a matter of understanding.  And often about blaming others.

 Say “thank you” for more comments instead of just arguing big on the subject.  We often have issues of receiving praise.

 You do not dare to listen to people.  So listen and say thank you.

 Gratitude is not a limited resource.  Express your thanks more often.

 People who think that they cannot make mistakes do not usually accept that they can be wrong.  In contrast, that makes you even more wrong.  You need to master your own mistakes.

 Your personality is not fixed and you do not need to be a separate person to improve.  You don't have to change your whole life, just make the symptoms a little better.

 Goal attachment is the blindness of achieving goals by spending more important things.

 You should not feel ashamed if someone is not following a difficult goal.

 The goal is not to blame emotion, it is the creator of error.

 Princeton theology students' research studies and stories of good Samaritans.  Goal Objection: We are so focused on the small goal and the task in front of us that we miss the big thing. Use it as a jumping point to talk about the goal of miss life.  Is it really working?

 Key lesson: You can do worse by questioning your flaws.  We often become very defensive about these issues but what do we have to lose?  Usually, very little.

 Forgiveness means giving up hope of a better past.

 The more you increase your problems the more practical it is.  Interpersonal behavior is the difference between being great and being great.

 After knowing the answer, "How do you feel about me?"  It doesn't matter when he's getting better.  What matters is, "How can I be better?"

 Pray for forgiveness, pray for forgiveness, pray for forgiveness, just take action and pray for the forgiveness you need.

 When you ask for forgiveness, you say, "Forgive me."  I will try to do better.  "And then shut up. Don't try to justify it.

 Girl Scouts CEO Frances Hesselbine.  Peter Drager claims to be the biggest executive.

 When you listen to someone, they think they are the only person in the room.  Their attention is dedicated to them.

 We can’t change without long runs.  Follow-up shows your coworkers that you care about getting better and that you are taking this process seriously.

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